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Talkers are usually more articulate than doers, since talk is their specialty.

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In 1953 reporters gathered at a Chicago railway station waiting to meet the 1952 Nobel Peace Prize winner.

He was a big man, six-feet-four tall with bushy hair and a large mustache.

Reporters were excited to see him and expressed what an honor it was meet him. Cameras were flashing, compliments were being expressed—but seeing beyond the adulation the visitor noticed an elderly Afro-American woman struggling to carry her two large suitcases.

“Excuse me,” he said as he went to the aid of this woman. Picking up her cases, he escorted her to a bus and then apologized to the reporters for keeping them waiting.

The man was Dr. Albert Schweitzer, the famous missionary-doctor who had invested his life helping poor and sick people in Africa.

A member of the reception committee remarked to one of the reporters, “That’s the first time I ever saw a sermon walking.”

The measure of any man or woman is not their name, their fame, nor what they say—but what they do.

I challenge you to be dreamers; I challenge you to be doers and let us make the greatest place in the world even better.

FREELOADING VS RESPONSIBILITY

There seems to be something about human nature in that many of us want as much as we can get for as little effort as possible. However, we only truly appreciate that which we work for. The reality of life is that there are no free lunches.
We can pretty much do what we want with our life and accomplish what we desire providing we are willing to adequately prepare ourselves for what we want to do and work hard enough to achieve it. As Solomon put it, “The sluggard craves and gets nothing, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.”

It is hard work and commitment that brings rewards and helps supply basic needs. Hard work is never wasted but laziness can ruin you and make you poor. Lazy people continuously make excuses and should be encouraged to work. They should not be allowed to be freeloaders.

Responsible people admit their wrongs, are faithful about their decisions and know their abilities and limitations. They take responsibility for their own actions.
Set your mind and strive to become a responsible hard working person who diligently does all that is worthy, honorable, just and fair knowing that you will be rewarded according to what you put into what you do.

Question…Do you have a wishbone or a backbone?

THE POWER OF STRENGTH AND COURAGE.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged. Concentration is the secret of strength.”

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When she was only nineteen months of age, Helen Keller suffered an illness that left her blind and deaf. Soon she was unable to speak. By the age of seven she was extremely frustrated by her inability to communicate. Fortunately, her parents were able to hire a 20-year-old teacher to come and live with them.

The teacher, Anne Sullivan, was a very capable and loving individual and was able to put courage into Helen by teaching her to communicate with the use of her fingers. Helen was greatly encouraged, learned to read by Braille and then read everything she could lay her hands on.

She desperately wanted to earn a university degree and, passing the entrance exams to Radcliffe, pleaded with officials to allow her to attend and bring Anne Sullivan with her to translate the lectures into her manual code. The following is part of what she wrote to the admissions office:

“I realize that the obstacles in the way of my receiving a college education are very great—to others they may seem insurmountable; but, dear Sir, a true soldier does not acknowledge defeat before the battle.”

Helen was admitted and graduated with high honors. She then spent the rest of her life helping to improve the lot of and put courage into other handicapped people at home and around the world.

Indeed, “A true soldier does not acknowledge defeat before the battle!” A good word for today.

Three of life’s greatest abilities are dependability, responsibility, and availability.

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First: Dependability, among many things, is keeping one’s word. It’s doing what we say we are going to do. It’s keeping the commitments we make. It is being authentic; for instance, sometimes, instead of saying what we truly feel and want, we say what we think others want to hear to be “nice,” and then we do the opposite, which is far from being nice. It’s being dishonest. Such a person cannot be trusted or depended on.

Second: Responsibility; that is, realizing that I am totally responsible for what I say, for what I want, for what I feel, for what I do or don’t do, for getting my needs met in healthy ways, and for every area of my life.

Unless I am handicapped, no matter what happened to me in the past relationally, if it were negative, I am responsible for what I do about it and for what I become. As another has wisely said, “I may have been a victim in the past, but if I remain a victim, I am now a willing volunteer.” As long as I fail to accept personal responsibility for my life and blame anybody else for the difficulties I have, I will never overcome them. That is, if I keep playing the blame-game, I will B-LAME!

Third: Availability. If I want my life to be fulfilling and meaningful, I need to be available for my family, for having a part in worthwhile causes (without being obsessive), and for being available to participate in worthy works for the good of others. 

We are accountable for all that we are, all that we do, and all that we become.

NOTHING IN LIFE IS TO BE FEARED

Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. When you dare to face the things that scare you; you open the door to freedom.
Most of your obstacles will melt away if instead of cowering before them or procrastinating about dealing with them you make up your mind to walk boldly through them.
Don’t be afraid to take the step you need to take to make positive changes in your life.
To fight fear you must act.
Waiting, putting off, or postponing only increases fear. If you understood enough, you would never be afraid.

SPIRITUAL FREEDOM

One weight we should not want to carry is the weight of forgiveness.

It is the attitude of the heart that abides outside the law of love. To walk in forgiveness is to walk in great spiritual freedom. Your heart is light when it does not carry a grudge, bitterness, or resentment. To forgive does not mean that you agree with the offence that someone has committed, or that you support it in anyway.

To forgive means that you choose to release the judgment you are carrying toward someone, even though that person did something that was unkind or unfair. The choice to forgive is not based on fairness or justice, but on mercy and grace. Mercy triumphs over judgment when you chose to forgive.

Cat-a-Tonic

Cat-a-Tonic.

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In his book, The Transparent Self, Sydney Jourard explains, “When I say that self-disclosure is a means by which one achieves personality health, I mean something like the following: it is not until I am my real self and act my real self that my real self is in a position to grow. One’s self grows from the consequences of being. People’s selves stop growing when they repress them.”

The problem of hiding and repressing one’s true self, feelings and motives goes back to the first man, Adam. When we do wrong we feel guilty, exposed and afraid, so we hide behind a mask fearing we might be condemned and/or rejected if we admit to what we did, we hide to defend our self.

Fearing rejection for our wrongdoing, failures, negative emotions, and false motives, we hide from other people. And, if we do this long enough, eventually we hide from ourselves until we no longer know who or what we really are. Personal growth then ceases and death as an authentic person begins.

To be fully alive and fully functioning, we need to be very much aware of the masks we hide behind and what we are hiding. Only when we face our reality; that is, our secret sins, dark side, and supercharged repressed negative emotions, and confess these, can we ever feel forgiven, free, and become authentic and real.

As they say in AA, we are as sick as our secrets. Also, it’s not the truth that hurts us but letting go of the lies; that is, letting go of the masks and defenses we hide behind.

There are numerous ways we hide to avoid facing our dark side and to medicate our pain such as the following: being too busy, becoming a workaholic or even a religious-aholic, or in other addictive behaviors. We use chemical dependency, intellectualism, theological rigidity, legalism, saccharine sweetness, an austere bearing, control of others, being a super-personality, codependency, and a score of other ways. Only when we stop acting out in these self-defeating ways and face our inner pain can we ever have a chance of overcoming what we are hiding from. It’s the truth that sets people free. Hiding from the truth keeps us in bondage. Furthermore, living in denial can be deadly! It can destroy relationships and take years off one’s life.

The tragedy is that most of us will do absolutely anything to avoid facing our reality and feeling our pain. However, to heal it we need to feel it, admit it, own it, and bring it to a trusted source and, if needed, to a qualified counselor for healing and recovery.

English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me to be real and connected to every broken part in my life, every unresolved issue, every buried emotion, and any block in me that hurts my relationships and stops my feeling and experiencing your love and affirmation at the very core of my being. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus’ name, amen.”

 

BLISSFUL IGNORANCE...

Honor Is no more associated with fools than snow with summer or rain with harvest. Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. A proverb in the mouth of a fool is as useless as a paralyzed leg or like a thorny branch brandished by a drunk.
An employer who hires a fool or a bystander is like an archer who shoots at random. There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise.
Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops. A quarrelsome person starts fights as easily as hot embers light charcoal or fire lights wood.
Rumors are dainty morsels that sink deep into one’s heart.
Smooth words may hide a wicked heart, just as a pretty glaze covers a clay pot. People may cover their hatred with pleasant words, but they are deceiving you. A lying tongued hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin. They pretend to be kind, but don’t believe them. Their hearts are full of many evils. While their hatred may be concealed by trickery, their wrongdoing will be exposed in public.
If you set a trap for others, you will get caught in it yourself. If you roll a boulder down on others, it will crush you instead.
What you put onto others will come back to you sevenfold. Be to people what you would like for them to be to you. Think before you speak and always give thought to what you do and why you do it.