Three of life’s greatest abilities are dependability, responsibility, and availability.


First: Dependability, among many things, is keeping one’s word. It’s doing what we say we are going to do. It’s keeping the commitments we make. It is being authentic; for instance, sometimes, instead of saying what we truly feel and want, we say what we think others want to hear to be “nice,” and then we do the opposite, which is far from being nice. It’s being dishonest. Such a person cannot be trusted or depended on.

Second: Responsibility; that is, realizing that I am totally responsible for what I say, for what I want, for what I feel, for what I do or don’t do, for getting my needs met in healthy ways, and for every area of my life.

Unless I am handicapped, no matter what happened to me in the past relationally, if it were negative, I am responsible for what I do about it and for what I become. As another has wisely said, “I may have been a victim in the past, but if I remain a victim, I am now a willing volunteer.” As long as I fail to accept personal responsibility for my life and blame anybody else for the difficulties I have, I will never overcome them. That is, if I keep playing the blame-game, I will B-LAME!

Third: Availability. If I want my life to be fulfilling and meaningful, I need to be available for my family, for having a part in worthwhile causes (without being obsessive), and for being available to participate in worthy works for the good of others. 

We are accountable for all that we are, all that we do, and all that we become.